During the past 6 months, I have been walking a journey of paying off student debt, taking better care of my health/wellness, and writing more.
As I write this, I am more contented than ever. However, during this journey I have fallen off the proverbial wagon a few times but, the difference is that these lapses were temporary. Truth be told, I did not enjoy those fast food meals at all.
Instead, I kept thinking about how much better my homemade Black Forest bacon asiago cheese organic bison slider tasted. When it came to spending, I did not fall off the wagon too much. My healthy habits yielded a 15 pound weight loss which necessitated me into buying new clothes.
I budgeted out a certain amount of money into my budget for a new wardrobe. I glanced around my bare bones apartment and decided to put money towards decorating my apartment. This has resulted in me staying home more and spending less money out.
I have made strides towards paying off debt but, I am still in the midst of the journey. Acknowledging small victories are key during this stage of the journey but, I still have to stay focused on walking the path to getting out of debt and staying healthy.
Is the person, thing, or ideal situation that you are pining/hoping/wishing/settling for actually good for you?
Tough question. The idea and fantasy of it seems so great and yet as it plays in real time...you are finding out that it is really a nightmare of sorts. But, the situation/job/relationship looks so good on the outside but, behind closed doors...is a different story.
You are paying a high price to keep up appearances but, what other choice do you have?
Actually, you have several choices but, the best one involves lots of courage with some strategy thrown in for good measure. Once, you realize that your current situation is poisoning you then, you have to take action to remove or at the very least distance yourself from it.
Below are some steps for distancing yourself from a toxic situation:
1. Distance yourself from your situation on social media.
In other words, stop perpetuating the whole "blissfully" happy life myth. This does not mean that you have to air all your gripes on social media but, go the route of neutral postings.
2. Realize that other people are struggling in some aspect of their lives
3. Take baby steps towards committing to transitioning out of your current situation
Listening to podcasts is a great way to dip your foot into the transition pool.
4. Expand your social circle
Meetup.com and online forums are great for expanding your social and knowledge circle. Keep things light and go slowly as far as bringing people into your inner circle.