Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Know The Difference Between Settling Down And Settling...

Take time to learn the difference between settling down and just plain 'ol settling.

Settling down is making the conscious choice to put down roots because you are ready to do so and have found the right person to share your life with.

Settling is  making the conscious choice to put down roots and you are willing to share your life with the person whom happens to be in your life in the moment.

Settling down brings  a sense of peace into your life.

Settling brings you chaos and anxiety.

Saturday, February 28, 2015

But, Is It Good For You?

Is the person, thing, or ideal situation that you are pining/hoping/wishing/settling for actually good for you?

Tough question. The idea and fantasy of it seems so great and yet as it plays in real are finding out that it is really a nightmare of sorts.  But, the situation/job/relationship looks so good on the outside but, behind closed a different story.

You are paying a high price to keep up appearances but, what other choice do you have?

Actually, you have several choices but, the best one involves lots of courage with some strategy thrown in for good measure. Once, you realize that your current situation is poisoning you then, you have to take action to remove or at the very least distance yourself from it.

Below are some steps for distancing yourself from a toxic situation:

1. Distance yourself from your situation on social media.
In other words, stop perpetuating the whole "blissfully" happy life myth. This does not mean that you have to air all your gripes on social media but,  go the route of neutral postings.

2. Realize that other people are struggling in some aspect of their lives

3. Take baby steps towards committing to transitioning out of your current situation
Listening to podcasts is a great way to dip your foot into the transition pool.

4. Expand your social circle and online forums are great for expanding your social and knowledge circle. Keep things light and go slowly as far as bringing people into your inner circle.

Saturday, January 31, 2015

Bougie Girl Career Transitions Podcast: Brainstorm Your Way Into A New Career (Show Notes)

The questions below will assist you with beginning your career transitioning journey.

1. What do you love about your current career?

2. What will it take for you to be on fire for your current career?

3.  What are the not so great things about your  current career?

4. Why have you stayed in it so long?

5. Is your financial situation healthy?

6. What kind of side hustle do you want to start?

Listen to this episode of the Bougie Girl Career Transitions Podcast.

Friday, January 2, 2015

2015...A Promise Of Better Things To Come

This past New Year's Eve, the clock struck midnight whilst I was chatting with a group of new friends. During that moment, the entirety of 2014 flashed before my eyes. I saw all of the people, situations, and my own outdated mindsets breeze past me.

I recall being so sad about a few of these exits. Yet, I knew that their exodus from my life would change it for the better.  Turns out that I was right.

I am heading into 2015 with a fresh new outlook on life.

How about you?

What's your new outlook for 2015?

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Getting Through Obstacles

2014 is almost over. Alas, obstacles and adversity will still be waiting for us in 2015. Join me for this informative video about "Getting Through Obstacles".